TMI Tuesday- Fierce Fatties Do Get Freaky!

Trigger Warning: It’s TMI Tuesday and it is ME writing this, needless to say I will probably say something inappropriate. I have a dirty mouth (I really love all F words) and absolutely no boundaries when it comes to talking about sex. This will be a very intimate post, dealing with the ideologies involving fat sex, as well as a bit about the ever growing plus sized adult industry.

Did you know fat people don’t have sex? Really it’s the truth, just like how women don’t poop.

Yep, and people are fucking stupid. I know for a fact these people are stupid as I had incredible sex last night as well as the night before. Incredible non-boring, completely blog worthy sex for that matter, and I’m pressing 275lbs. So yeah proof people are definitely fucking stupid, and fat people well they are definitely fucking. Unfortunately stupidity hurts the fat community. There is a rumor going around out there, mostly between the rail thin and starving, that fatties don’t know how to get freaky and as any good plus sized princess, admirer, FA leader, BBW, fat girl next door, BHM or what have you, knows we can get our sex on and probably even do it better than our thinner counterparts. Haven’t you ever heard of “more cushion for the pushin” or “more bounce to the ounce”? So where the hell did this rumor that fat people aren’t sexual come from?

In all seriousness it could be our fault, but have no fear just by me writing this and by you reading this we are combating it. I remember being a fat teen. Sure I was stylish, funny, and likeable, got dates and appeared confident but I had my insecurities too, especially when it came to being sexual. I haven’t always been the sexually free person I am now and when I did get around to taking my clothes off and getting down to business, I found myself terrified of sexual rejection due to my weight. I remember positioning myself in ways that hid my chub, even when they were the most uncomfortable positions imaginable. I remember stripping down and hopping under the sheets before my partner could make it into the bedroom. I even remember as an adult lying on my stomach on the living room floor during pillow talk following a casual encounter, and that person I didn’t even give a shit about. Who can honestly say they have never wanted to dim the lights before disrobing in front of their partner for the first time? It’s a scary thought, nothing to hide our self proclaimed imperfections, nothing between us and the eyes of the person we want nothing more than to find us sexy and fuckable. I remember wondering if the same person who thought I was wonderful and hot and sexy when I was fully clothed in my strategic outfits, would still think all those same things about me when seeing each and every stretch mark, fat roll, or the way my breasts looked while not held in the ever wonderful push-up bra.

Did it help anything having these insecurities? Of course not. All it did was lead to awkward encounters, and a lot less fun then I could have been having. In all honesty the person I was with was with me for a reason, that person knew me, knew my flaws, or at least what I thought were my flaws, and loved them and in return me anyways. If you are fat everyone knows you are fat and some people don’t dig that, but fuck them, they probably weren’t giving you enough positive attention to get you in the sack anyways. If you are fat everyone knows you are fat and some people totally dig that, so if you dig them too then SCORE! If you are fat everyone knows you are fat but given the chance they will also know that you are smart, talented, attractive, fun, outgoing, and everything wonderful that you are, and they will love that no matter if your fucking with the lights on, or if they are waking up to you the next morning when you’re your hair makes you look like Jimmy Neutron (yep that’s my wonderful morning identity).

So now that we are feeling sexually appealing at any size and have realized that it doesn’t matter what we look like while making our best O face, what do we do about the rest of the world who still doesn’t think of us fierce fatties as sexual beings? Well some of us choose to let the world know that fat sex is hot and fun and sometimes kinky and completely doable (no pun intended). Thanks in a large part to the plus sized adult industry this has been made easier for those not so sexually vocal. The plus sized adult industry used to be much like the old fashion world before the new wave of plus sized models and extended sized clothing lines, and also runs alongside fat acceptance. The life cycle of the social movement to fight the injustice and bias represented in those other venues we are more familiar with could almost be considered parallel to that within the plus sized adult industry. The adult industry was originally seen as unrealistic and promoting of an aesthetic not attainable for most women. Sound familiar? When larger people were brought into the adult industry they were only used for strictly taboo pornography and the idea that a fat person would only be desirable to watch if they were seen degrading themselves. So not cool. Well just like they have in fat fashion and fat acceptance when it comes to fat sex and the adult industry times have changed. It is a growing niche and market. Plus sized lingerie companies could attest to that as well I’m sure, as manufacturers of plus sized adult toys, videos, and websites. Now that’s not to say that we all have to be pornish kinksters but the plus sized adult industry is another part in fat acceptance and is a key player in breaking down the myth that fat people aren’t sexual beings.

I’m not a part of the adult industry and aside from being an extremely sex crazed fat girl I am certainly not an expert. If you are interested in learning more about size positivity in the adult industry tune in to Radio Dentata’s new show The Cushion with hosts Drew and Lasha every Tuesday at 9pm EST and Wednesdays at 12am EST. Drew and Lasha will tackle everything regarding fat sex and the industry without holding back. Definitely worth a listen!

Happy Fat Fucking!

Stiletto Siren