Hello all! Yeah, I’ve been gone for a while, and a lot has happened in my life. But I’m so glad to be back and super happy to be writing for Fierce, Freethinking Fatties again!
So a little about why I was gone: my fiance moved from England to California in late November, and him being here collided with finals at school, moving from my little room downstairs to the master bedroom upstairs, planning a wedding on very short notice, and, you know, holidays. For those of you who don’t know, when someone moves to America on a fiance visa, you only have 90 days to get married. It was hectic to say the least.
I’m married now, though, happily. Our ceremony was at the county clerk’s office. I wore the only dress I could find, a silver one from Torrid, silver flats, and my mother’s perfume. My dad’s wife bought me a bouquet studded with sparklies. My husband wore black jeans, a matching silver/grey button down, and a black tie. He cried when he saw me in my dress.
The woman who married us was amazing and she seemed excited and happy to marry us even after marrying about six other couples that afternoon. My uncle took pictures, my mother cried, my father photobombed us a few times, and my brother was our witness. We cried, then we ate, and then we spent a few nights in a hotel. We swam a lot even though it was cold.
It wasn’t very expensive or posh or unique or exotic, but it was special, and I loved it.
We’re very happy and life’s finally settling down now.
So that’s enough about me and my life, let’s talk about some fat activism, yes? Yes!
So, aside from getting married, and painting and decorating our bedroom, I’ve also been getting back into the Fat Acceptance (FA) scene. I’m sure some/most/all of you know this, but there is a great FA crowd on Tumblr. This Is Thin Privilege is a great site with generally short blurbs about people’s experiences with discrimination based on their weight and/or body shapes.
(Trigger warning on this first example for talk of eating disorders.)
They are also wonderfully intersectional, pointing out white, cissexual, heterosexual, male, and other such privileges that show up with thin privilege, and how they work together.
These are just examples from the last few days that give a good feeling of what the blog’s about.
Of course they get hate, but the mods are quick-witted and sharp-tongued, and quick to shut down bigots and trolls. Every once in a while, the blog will discuss movies, books, etc. and how fat and fatness is represented or unrepresented.
This Is Thin Privilege can be depressing. It sucks to see and realize how people are treated differently on a day-to-day basis based on something as trivial as their size and shape. This Is Thin Privilege can also be really uplifting. Reading examples helps me to see the extent of discrimination towards me, personally, and I’m better able to fight it.
It really is a great, little blog, I think. It’s fat activism sliders (I’m fat, I had to use a food analogy) — turning over the system in bite-sized blurbs.
I love it.