I’m Tired Y’all
So two articles have come across my desk in recent days. In one, a chef is denied his work visa from New Zealand simply for being too fat, and the article features a headless fatty eating lunch. And the second is that a Cambridge University research team found yet another gene involved in making people fat. Don’t worry, the article (by the laws of fatness) couldn’t be too positive. It also features a headless fatty, as well as pondering on how to cure us.
I was musing with my husband, as we are both bisexual, how similar to the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) struggle the fat struggle is. At least I hope it is because we’re making some amazing strides in the LGBT community. Could acceptance of fatties end up with the kind of positive poll numbers that have finally turned in favor of LGBT people? Currently, 60% of Americans accept homosexuality. with the numbers going up in more secular and advanced countries, like Spain which is at 88% and Germany at 87%. There is no Pew Research Center poll on how acceptable fatness is, but we do know that almost 4 in 10 Americans think being fat is worse for you than smoking.
Along with that mentality, many believe fat people need to be eradicated. Can you guess what other group was once thought of in the same manner? That they were diseased? Unhealthy? Unnatural? Needing eradication? Well, I guess that actually describes multiple groups, but I was thinking of TEH GAYS.
Like I said, being queer myself, it’s easy for me to see an overlap in the culture of hate. When people tell me I’m just not trying hard enough, that I’m disgusting, that I’m a sinner, that I need not exist. My husband argued that even with all the science, and even if it becomes uncontroversial in scientific circles, people will still be hateful. Because hate is just what people do. It’s a deeply ingrained reflex to hate people for being different.
But me, I can’t think like that. I’m too tired to think like that. I need to believe that, just like with LGBT people, fat people will one day be seen as human, acceptable, normal, not needing to be eradicated or cured. Yes, it’s true that fundamentalists still believe all of those awful things, as fundamentalists always will, but the majority of the people will come to their senses… right?
They’ve just got to because I don’t know how much longer I can do this. Dealing with hatred day in and day out is taxing, especially for someone with bipolar and hypothyroidism (meaning I’m tired all of the time anyway). We fight and we fight and we get up the next day and fight some more. But it’s got to end sometime. Doesn’t it?
What do you think? Is acceptance on the horizon? Or will the hate continue?